1247.) Ive had a boyfriend for 4months now and its not working out. Ive lost my ‘love’ for him throughout our relationship. why? Because he’s selfish, but thinks he not. All we do is argue. When im mad, he gets mad JUST BECAUSE i am mad. Who does that? He doesnt want to figure out why im mad to begin with so i have to force it out. He’s abused me once and I had bruises that my loved one had seen and I had to lie about how I got them. We’ve tried breaking up but he wants to try things out and work on it, but it always comes down to us arguing. I really want to brak up with him but if i do, things might go wrong. We’re in the same dance team and id like to stay in it. most likely i will, but during practices hes gonna talk shit about me behind my back, without a doubt. He;s been calling and texting me and finally said “__ im going on a break with you” I wanted to say no, im done, and i would like to break up but not via text nor call. he wants to come over and talk. but I know I dont want to, but in person it will be better right? another problem is that I have a guy bestfriend that ive been growing feelings for. He treats me way much bettr than my bf. He;s in the military but hes home here for 3 months. I wanted to tell him how i feel about us, cos we act like we have something going on. Even him family said so, but im not sure how he’ll react. Hes kissed me before, played with my hair, and put his arm around me. Id even go for the long distant relationship thing when he leaves after thanksgiving for 10months. I want him to know that i love him. I dont know what to do. I feel so lost. Because of my bf ive been smoking alot and my bestfriend wants me to stop smoking. Okay, now im rambling. sorry. so what should I do. Should i break up with my boyfriend and telll my bestfriend the feelings that ive gained for him? Even if all goes wrong, id rather be single than staying with him. Its unhealthy for me to stay in a relationship thats not going anywhere.
1.) If he’s an abusive boyfriend, you need to leave him. You deserve better and if he was a real man, he would never hit his girlfriend.
2.) Breaking up in person would be better, but make sure that there’s a guy or someone that could protect you there. If he’s abused you once over some shit, god knows what he’ll do when you break up with him.
3.) Tell your friend how you feel. Since he’s in the military, there’s kinda that risk that he might die. God forbid that actually happens, but that chance is there. So you might as well tell him.
4.) Normally I’m all for smoking because I’ve kinda smoked a lot in my time, but you’re smoking for the wrong reasons. I’ve smoked because of relationship issues and it wasn’t good. It led to drinking than taking pills and than drinking and smoking and yeah, it wasn’t good. So you should stop. Smoking weed isn’t a gateway drug, but smoking weed because of your emotional problems is.
5.) Leave this jerk and tell your friend how you feel about him.
